The Journey 5
Let’s discuss accountability and awareness…
I feel like discussing these two together is important. why? because we need to be aware of ourselves, our thoughts, our emotions and most importantly our actions in order to take accountability.
When I say awareness, I mean being aware of self, being an observer of self. What are you thinking, what are you doing, what are you allowing or not allowing in your life.
This is how we take accountability for ourself and for our lives. I hear people all the time blaming everything they could on the devil, even pastors and it hit me one day that no one likes to take accountability. It’s so easy to blame someone or something else on why life isn’t going the way you expected.
It’s easy to say “God is testing me” or “the devil is busy” verses admitting you made a mistake. The thing about not admitting that whatever happened is the effect of something you caused, is a problem that will keep circulating.
Yes… you heard me, a problem that will keep circulating. Without being aware of your self and without taking accountability how will you know that you choose wrong or make a mistake, how will you know not to repeat that cycle of events or actions.
Being aware and accountable helps you to examine yourself, see what went wrong and learn from it. People don’t change unless they feel like something is wrong (with them) if a person don’t feel like something is wrong they won’t change.
Allow me to provide an example. Lets take the girl who is consistently cheated on by different men, while there may not be anything wrong with her psychically and she may think that all guys are cheaters. Yes some guys cheat, but here’s where you she should become aware and accountable, and questions she should be asking herself,
Why am I attacking men who cheat, maybe she is choosing men who lives a fast lifestyles, maybe she is choosing men who is not interested in the things she’s interested in
why are men comfortable cheating on me? maybe she has stayed with them after the first red flag which gives some men signals that you won’t leave. Some men are cheaters and they don’t feel a need to change and us women love proving we can change them. Well you can't, you can not change people. so you let them be them and if what they are doing are not to your liking… leave
What can I do differently? First work on yourself, become aware of your values, your desires and your wants. Take accountability for what you have allowed people to do to you and make a change. Know what it is you want from a relationship and date man who share those same interests and is ready for what you are ready for.
In no way am I making excuses for men who cheat but it is their life and they get to live it the way they choose.
What I’m saying is be accountable for yourself, for your own life and the way it should go. You can not leave it up to God, God gave your free will which means its up to you to chose life or death, struggle or prosperity, positivity or negativity etc… Now God will provide help when you ask but your life and what happens in it is up to you. I say these things so that you may choose life.